A friend was telling me about her experience with online dating recently and mentioned that she liked the fact that she got to go on real dates right from the start, as opposed to how some men simply ask her to hang out informally.
I’ve been on a couple of first dates (at least I think they were dates) in the last month. Kind of like this article I find myself enjoying some of them, but unsure of how to followup. Actually, I recently came to the realization that unlike my friend mentioned above, I don’t really like dating that much. Contrary to what you might think this doesn’t mean I’m anti-social, in fact I get a long with a variety of people and with the exception of extremely formal events I’m comfortable connecting with new people. Basically, I like building friendships.
This same attitude towards dating has limited me in the last year. It is based on a hypothetical theory I have about just meeting people and creating good connections, and then if there is a mutual interest going from there.
Now, I’ve never actually been friends with someone for a while before dating, so I’m kind of in uncharted waters. But I think it might make sense. And, of course, having that attitude allows me to enjoy spending energy and time with people without worrying about the outcome. That’s different from a lot of people I know, who seem to weigh out their interest in the people they are attracted to by potential, which makes me wonder, should I be doing the same?
I would love to hear more thoughts on this TaGQ…..I know there are some blog lurkers out there with opinions.. =)