A friend of mine who’s currently in China recently found herself on the wrong end of this question. She dated someone, turned out he had a wife & daughter, he said it was a loveless marriage, she tried to make it work with him, then his wife found out and threatened my friend with a knife (she’s ok).
That’s the abbreviated version, but basically we were chatting on-line this morning and both wondered why she, as the other woman, was the object of so much anger instead of the man.
I’ve been on both sides of the equation: one night stand when I was 22, terrible judgement, never made that mistake again, and more recently had a partner cheat on me repeatedly.
In the first instance my girlfriend at the time was incredibly mad at me (which she should have been) and absolutely furious at the other woman. In the latter I was just really hurt, sad, and angry at my partner. It never occurred to me to be particularly angry at the other men, though obviously I don’t think highly of anyone that would knowingly engage in a relationship with someone they knew already had a partner.
Have you ever threatened the other (wo)man with a knife? 😉
( If you have prob shouldn’t answer that…)